That whole, "You say you can’t wait until they walk, but when they start running, you kick yourself," thing is completely true.

          As toddlers become more and more independent, we start letting out secret little sighs of relief, but before those sighs can really even begin to let off some of the mounting pressure that comes with parenting a toddler (or two!), the sh*t hits the fan.  Let me break it down for you…

         

         

Mega can reach the light switch!

  • Great: When he has to go potty, I don’t have to run to turn on the light for him before he pees all over himself!
  • Horrible: He can turn it on at night, which makes sleep far less appealing and toys far more appealing.

Mega can brush his own teeth!

  • Great: One less bathroom chore for me, especially since Skeeter finally has teeth that also need to be brushed.
  • Horrible:  He loves the taste of the toddler toothpaste and will devour an entire tube if given the chance.  He also thinks that every thing except his own hair should now be brushed and destroyed his last toothbrush in an attempt to clean the sink.

Mega repeats lessons he has learned to Skeeter!

  • Great:  Every time I don’t have to repeat, "Don’t throw things in the house, please," or "The kitty doesn’t like it when you pull her tail," is a real treat.
  • Horrible: When I let a 4-letter word fly in traffic.  "Mommy!  We don’t say those words!  Be nice or you will get a time out!"

Skeeter is feeding himself!

  • Great: Again, one less thing for me to do and I might actually get to shovel in a few bites before my food is stone cold.
  • Horrible:  Two words: The.  Mess.  He refuses to use a fork, but will not eat if you try to feed him, or even help him.  Yogurt is about the only exception, and even that is on its way.

Skeeter is talking!

  • Great:  I was beginning to worry, especially since we were still thinking he was partially deaf, and because Mega spoke so clearly so soon.  Not to mention, less frustration for us all because he can communicate what he wants/needs!
  • Horrible:  He’s still got a long way to go, and because Mega is a perfectionist like me, he finishes his words for him, or just cuts him off and completes the phrase however he sees fit.  It’s very hard for me to tell Mega to stop talking for a minute and let Skeeter talk to Mommy, and you can see Skeeter just give up when Mega opens his mouth.  There are always the times Skeeter starts to try to say something and Mega thinks he’s going to say something bad, and he tells him he’s not being nice, which discourages the poor baby even more…

          Every achievement is a double-edged sword.  Even potty training!  GREAT!  No more diapers, which means fewer diapers in the dumps, less money we spend each month, more room in the diaper bag, and less prep-time!  It’s only bad in that we have to drop everything when Mega says he needs to go because we don’t want an accident to make him feel bad.  Not to mention he just moves along at a turtle’s pace, so by the time we wash his hands and straighten out his pants (he can pull them up, but they’re always waaayy crooked), if we were in the middle of a meal, the food is cold.  As soon as you figure out a way to overcome one obstacle, so has your toddler.  When they adapt, you adapt.  It’s a truly dynamic relationship and while it sometimes makes me simply bone-weary, I couldn’t and wouldn’t trade it for anything in this world. 

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